Your Victim Complex will kill your dreams : escape your prison.

As far as self-destructive behavior goes, actively choosing to play the victim is right up there with self-sabotage and emotional numbing. At a certain point, someone, consciously or not, decides to hand life the wheel. They let go, they shrink and they surrender all power to the “pleasure” of helplessness.

Because let’s be real, being a victim has its “perks”, right? You don’t have to make decisions, take responsibility and above it all, you don’t have to face yourself. God forbid you actually take accountability that life is not happening TO you; YOU are happening to you. And that’s not a punishment, that’s a blessing.

But not everyone is ready for this truth, or aware of it for that matter, so let me break it down for you.

Some time ago- probably around your childhood- something happened that changed the trajectory of your mind, and you made a decision : I am a victim and life is happening to me and I can’t do anything about it but submit to this. Afraid and unaware you continued to keep this belief with you, that spread and ramified itself within you as the years went on.

How does it show up today ? You bump your toe in the corner? “Why me!” Your partner breaks up with you “Why me !” Someone does you dirty ? “why me why me why me!” Suddenly, everything in life is happening to you, and you somehow expect to be pitied, babied, understood. Because you’re a good person and why are all these bad things happening to you, you don’t deserve it right?

The intent is good, but the approach is wrong. You’ve been living a lie and it’s time you wake up from this slumber. You are NOT a victim of your reality, you are CHOOSING to let these things define you and rub you of your power. Yes, read that again. You are CHOOSING to feel like a victim because you think you can’t take action or are too afraid to.

However, though you might not be aware of these behaviours, others do; they know precisely what they’re doing as they’ve willingly chosen to live they life a victim. By now their entire identity is rooted in suffering and in being perceived as a wounded animal on the offchance to be seen, babied. these are the most dangerous to be around because for every solution you might offer them, they’ll find 1000 new problems -why? Because they don’t want to get better, they just want to be seen. 

Low self-worth becomes their currency as their ego begs for any type of attention. The thought process ? “If I’m not struggling, who even am I?” So they create noise : constant complaining, spiraling, passive helplessness. This doesn’t make person “bad”, it simply shines a light on their limits and on their identity, because deep down, they’re terrified of becoming invisible. they believe that if they don’t complain, they’ll disappear because of how far the belief is rooted in them.  That is of course a fallacy, but THEY need to be the ones to SEE it with their eyes; you’ll never be able to change their mind.

HOW to actually change : CLARITY will save you

NOW, to those who DO want to get rid of these limiting beliefs - those may not be fully aware they’ve been slowly giving away thier power away - let’s get cooking : do you ever catch yourself thinking  “Why me?”, “This isn’t fair.” “I don’t deserve this.” That’s not you, that’s your wounded ego talking, and we need to kindly remind him that he’s heard, but he needs to let the adult take the lead. 

That right there? That’s victim mode; it’s a silent contract you make with life that says: “I have no say in this. I’m just here to suffer through it.” But you’re too powerful to keep lying to yourself. Every time you spiral into those thoughts, you’re handing your emotional, mental, and even physical authority over to the external. You’re saying, “You : “person, situation, world” get to decide how I feel.”

but I want you to understand one thing : NOTHIGN has inherent meaning but the meaning you assign it ! NOTHING. 

That means YOU get to give the meaning to every single thing that happens to you. They cheated on you ? THANK THEM, because they just showed you how awful of a person they were. They just allowed you to make space for better to come. You lost your job? GREAT ! You hated it anyways and were looking for the RIGHT moment to start your own business or change company.

Think of it like this: you’re playing The Sims. You’re the one choosing how your character reacts. Are you going to click “sulk” every time something doesn’t go your way? Or are you going to choose something that builds your strength? Stop giving situations the power to define you.

It’s not about “toxic positivity”; it’s about choosing a story that works FOR you and empowers you : the input is the same, but the output? It completly depends on the story you’re telling yourself. The day you shift from “ It is all happening TO me” to “ Everything is happening FOR me” is the day you set yourself for success. Because you’ll understand that everything that lead you to where you are happened FOR you; it always did and it always will. You just need to shift your perception to see it.

The world will throw you opportunities to spiral every day, but here’s a GREAT news :  You DO NOT have to accept any of them ! You can simply CHOOSE to not let them have power over you and FOCUS on what DOES empower you. 

You are the one who decides what to absorb and what to ignore;  stop mindlessly accepting and start choose wisely.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.

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It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

Don’t worry about sounding professional. Sound like you. There are over 1.5 billion websites out there, but your story is what’s going to separate this one from the rest. If you read the words back and don’t hear your own voice in your head, that’s a good sign you still have more work to do.

Be clear, be confident and don’t overthink it. The beauty of your story is that it’s going to continue to evolve and your site can evolve with it. Your goal should be to make it feel right for right now. Later will take care of itself. It always does.